Comments on: The Wrong Idea

By: Lex

Lex — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 16:28:21 +0000

Mary – That’s exactly it. It takes a real man to do the right thing. So simple, yet so difficult.

Nina – I get the fantasy thing. However, I prefer to just let the reader figure out their own fantasy rather than to just assume that she would think an Alpha has a big dick.

Mojo – I’m not being a stranger, really. I’ve been in my feed reader… a little. I have a lot of posts to catch up on and I haven’t been commenting even though I’ve been reading, but the weekend is coming, thank God. I’m curious about your Monochrome Monday now.

By: Mojo

Mojo — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 16:21:25 +0000

Not exactly the topic I expected when I stopped by, but since you brought it up (no pun intended... okay, maybe a little) Alpha is definitely an attitude, not a dimension. To illustrate, my dog Tonka was the smallest of the males in his litter. He was smaller than one of the females even. But there was no doubt once they became mobile enough to tell who was who that he was in charge. And there's not a species where alpha roles are more clearly defined than canids. Turning to the human equivalent... well, sounds like I'd get on well with any one of you. And vice versa. And I think I'll leave it there. But what I actually stopped in for was to say "Hey, Lex... I just joined in on a new photo meme called "Monochrome Monday" and when I chose my first submission I was thinking of you. So stop by Monday and check it out... I think you'll like it. Don't be a stranger! Mojos last blog post..Email Crisis Resolved (for now)

By: Nina Pierce

Nina Pierce — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 14:01:44 +0000

Lex, I agree with your assessment. Alphas don’t have to well endowed in real life. It’s who they are that defines them.

But the fact is, erotic writers write fantasy. And I think the fantasy is the well endowed alpha male. Seems to come with the hero package. Like you, I use nebulous terms like “thick” and “filled her completely”. No dimensions. Because ideal penis size is different for every woman.

Nice post.

By: maryO

maryO — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 15:49:33 +0000

Yeah I agree that bigger isnt better. My comment in the other place is totally on the fact that I would not have minded to see if he had the motion with that ocean. I totally agree with your Alpha Male defition. It takes a real man to do the right thing than the easy thing. It takes an even smarter man to do them both and come out on top. maryOs last blog post..Energy anyone??

By: Lex

Lex — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 20:11:31 +0000

Corinne – I like that analogy!

Amber – I’m so glad not every woman in her 20’s thinks the big dick is better. Thanks for coming by to comment!

By: Amber

Amber — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 19:27:17 +0000

I had to come check out this post after I read your update on twitter. And I'm so glad I did. I couldn't agree with you more. The absolutely most explosive sex I've ever had was with a man who was on the smaller side of average. All he has to do, is put his hands on my hips and draw me to him a little and I get shaky from the raw sexual chemistry between us. It's awesome! *Big Grin* And, for the record, I've had sex with men who were absolutely HUGE. In my experience, it's been those men that don't take the time to do anything *fun* -- just the "wham, bam, thank you ma'am" kind of bullshit. Society, their friends, whatever has programmed them to think that it's enough that they have a big dick. Well, WRONG! Thanks for the post, hon! Ambers last blog post..The Princess is 24 Now…

By: Corinne Davies

Corinne Davies — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 18:45:46 +0000

It’s not the size of your pencil, but how you write your name. *BG*

I couldn’t agree more with you both. Alpha’s are defined by actions and attitude. Not penis size.
An Alpha hero is perfect for his heroine, in everyway, even if it takes them most of the book to figure it out.

By: Lex

Lex — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 17:20:16 +0000

You ladies are smart. I kinda knew you two would agree with me. LOL I’ve had the big ten inch. It was a big pain in the you know where. It was fun at the time but for several days afterward, sitting on a hard chair, facing the students in my math class was very difficult. Rott’s an average guy in the size department, but he has all the earmarks of an Alpha. If someone threatened us… believe me, the Glock would come out faster than you could say “penis enhancement.” LOL

By: Jennifer McKenzie

Jennifer McKenzie — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 15:54:47 +0000

Having been with a man who was “well endowed” I have to say the sex WASN’T better. It wasn’t all that great for me.
Then, I met an average sized guy and that did it for me. Big time.
I agree that “Alpha” refers to an attitude, not a penis size.
Great post, Lex

By: Susan Helene Gottfried

Susan Helene Gottfried — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 15:10:57 +0000

I'm with ya all the way, darling. Susan Helene Gottfrieds last blog post..Byline: Chelle LaFleur -- Behold Me